CHOOSING GRATITUDE

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"When we are grateful, fear disappears and abundance appears" Anthony Robbins.


When I think about the date today, I haven't always been so calm and serene.  Thirty six years ago is when I got married for the first time.  Because of how the marriage ended and many unacceptable issues that happened,  it was a major trigger for years.  I would have different emotional reactions for years.  Today it is just another day.

When I have an anxiety or panic attacks, my heart can start racing and it feels like something is crawling inside my body.  With continued recovery I was able to forgive myself and also the partner that I left.  My emotional responses improved.  Looking back it took talking with professionals , joining and getting involved in support and getting rid of the shame.  

In many ways, I had to change some of my thinking.  I actually became grateful.  Grateful for the lessons I've learned and am learning.   I really tried to have a positive attitude when I got diagnosed with breast cancer.  All my recovery skills really helped me.  Even though it was an aggressive kind, I didn't panic. The doctor's said it was caught early and with the newest treatment, it had a high success rate.  





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