COMING OUT of CRAZINESS

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"Believe you can, and your halfway there"--Theodore Roosevelt.



   As I mentioned in an earlier post that Al-Anon  (a world wide fellowship that offers a program of recovery for the families and friends of alcoholics whether they are sober or active.)   ended up giving me great hope and serenity.  It wasn't overnight, but consistency in attending their meeting and getting involved eased my craziness.

My s/o, was sober but very angry and not very supportive of my mental health diagnosis. I wasn't looking for perfection but knew the way we were interacting with each other was unhealthy.  We had moved from Massachusetts to the Carolina's,  a year prior which put more strain on both of us.  A neighbor introduced me to Al-Anon.  I was able to find some meetings that I could bring my children to.  I also had a second neighbor that I confided in and started attending a presbyterian church.  My feelings of hopelessness started to subside.  

This was also the first time I got introduced to Domestic violence shelters and programs. Without going into details, my children and I went to a shelter one night to escape potential violence.  Even though the staff wanted me to stay, I went home the next day.  I ended up calling my husband who apologized.  

So starts the cycle.  We as victims really want to believe our abuser will change. For awhile it is calm then when any kind of stressor hits, the cycle starts again. Recovery and healing is a journey, but everyone involved has to want it for themselves.  

Both recovery groups gave me a sense of hope, because I knew everyone attending had similar issues.  I didn't get advice, but I started to gain strength and courage.  

I am recovering from breast cancer treatment I had three years ago.   Doing all this is helping me to heal again.  So much more to discuss.



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